Surviving a Long Distance Relationship
So, you have decided to pursue a long distance relationship or you are currently in a long distance relationship and find it difficult. Hey friend 👋! You are not on your own.
I romanticized long distance relationships but, being in one changed my whole perspective of relationships. I am use to bitter women downplaying their relationship because it is over. I will not be that blogger. My LDR taught me more good than harm.
A great friend of mine said to me, “I don’t think relationships were meant to be in long distance”.
Guest Blogger: Eternal Love
–Love Series–
Do you believe in love and the promises it gives? The lighthearted, overjoyed, valuable, and emotional that love is. To have the greatest feeling in the world and not afraid to show it. The strong affection felt by two people in a romantic relationship. To know that one person wants to love you for life like Jodeci as he gets down on one knee while you are serenaded by the smooth vocals of Boyz II Men. On his knee, to propose, and ask his dream woman for her hand in marriage because she has changed him like Jamie Foxx and Chris Brown said, “Cuz you changed me baby”. As he waits for her to answer yes to the man she spent years searching for, the man of her dreams.
Look out! You are falling for him.
You got caught up with your friend with benefits and thought you were his girlfriend. Your FWB is now a committed relationship. You stepped over the boundary and now he plays a vital role in your life; like a part of your routine. He is now your breakfast, lunch, and dinner *rolls eyes*. You done fucked up!
Now you:
Want to hang out (for real)
That “Wyd or WUUP2” text does not mean, “Hey I am fienin'”. It means, hey let’s hang out; it means I want your company; I miss you; I need you here.
Late nights turn into late evenings
You want to spend more time with him so you hit him up earlier than the usual late night sex text or call.
Friend With Benefits: The Good
Fear of love
Who ever told you relationships are easy, fed you unrealistic expectations of relationships. A relationship is a bond where two imperfect people come together attempting to perfect one another. In order to do this, the couple must be willing to make certain sacrifices to keep the relationship happy, healthy, and prosperous. These sacrifices include dedicating yourself to one individual for a period of time, giving up privacy, and etc.
Unfortunately, there are individuals who view commitment as an obstacle in the path of their pursuit of romantic relationships. This view presents the fear of love or the fear of relationships, and exemplifies a “commitment-phobe”.
Used interchangeably, commitment issues, relationship anxiety, or commitment phobia, is a problem that is not new.
As mentioned in the definition of commitment, it is safe to infer that being committed in a relationship is to be dedicated to that relationship and partner.
Why are you afraid of commitment?